i find it funny how there is SO much downpour of hate and pettiness for women on the red carpet for such trivial reasons (im not exempt from it myself) but there’s quite literally men walking the red carpet that has been charged with domestic violence and we’re quieter than an audience at a nickelback concert when it comes to them
there could be a million reasons but i’ll give you one
in this day and age there is a huge emphasis and promotion of youth culture. it is not youth itself, but the image of it — more specifically, the brand of it. talented teenagers and fresh-faced 20-somethings are the mastheads of every product! because that is the main buying demographic; and every other demographic is shaped as youth-aspirational all the same (“hey 40-year-old mom, this product will make you feel like this 20-year-old model”).
prodigies are not so much discovered as they are branded. any young person in pop culture has a publicist and funding (e.g., tavi gevinson, lena dunham, etc.), and/or connections. it has widened a little bit with the self-promotion tools available to people (blogs n youtube) but in general i would take any young talented person you read about with a grain of salt — instead of as an aspiration, or a mark that you’re not hitting. remember that the stories that are written about them are about them as product. most of these stories are often paid for in advance by a PR person or team. (try looking up a young celebrity’s name through Google News and see how many stories are variations on the same mundane story, oftentimes with the exact same press-release re-paraphrased different ways.)
all of the “youth marketing” in general promotes a plastic version of how we actually live. (cut to: an ad for pepsi/levi’s/a smartphone with young people on the beach having a good time. the young people have been selected for their cheekbones and precise melanin count. they are paid $1000 each for the use of their image, a makeup artist is paid to make them look even younger and brighter, and then they do 20 takes each of them pretending to sing a song, or pretending to crack up at each other, or pretending to frolic in freezing cold waves.) “live for the moment!” if you’re not here, what are you doing with your life?
wherein “life” is equated with the portion of time between ages 13 and 25. over and over again!
it’s ludicrous! don’t buy any of that. you’re in a development period.
—you’re in a development period and you always will be in a development period. there is no time in your life when confetti will drop from the ceiling like, tada! you did it! you Made Something Out of Yourself! because there is no end point that you’re heading towards.
this is why i say that growth is expansion; it is not like levelling up in a video game. or as anais nin said:
part of what may be making you feel old is being 21 and in school. because you’re likely at the end of a road that you’ve been undertaking for the past 16 or so years. one path, one structure! with maybe a few tiny sidepaths.
hopefully you’re near the end of that path so you can start to seek out all the different directions you can head towards. there’s an infinite amount.
i love going out and about in the world, and listening to what people have to say to me. sometimes i share with people too. most of the time people look at me and squint and say “you’re so young! you have so much ahead of you. you’re how old, 20? 21?” and i say “i’m nearly 25!” and i puff out my chest like a robin. and then they say, “ahh! so young! you’re so young.” it used to really tick me off; i used to want nothing else in the world than to be old and accomplished and learned. but! i will get there thru growing and learning and being each age that i have to be, like a tree, ring by ring by ring!
so that as i grow, my life acquires more texture! more fullness! more me! more life!
try watching a reality show that judges talents sometimes! (e.g. “top chef,” “project runway,” those types of shows). pay attention — people in their late 20s and early 30s blush and stumble, “i’m really young, i’m really new at this, i’ve only been at it for 5 years. i have so much to learn.” this is another great exercise in humility.
and remember that accomplishments are produced through a great deal of time — and effort — and the resting in-between efforts. and a series of very tiny activities, like having a conversation, or doodling, or writing a sad song. because they all inform each other. you aren’t wasting anything.
We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.Anaïs Nin (via gowns)
i think my brain just exploded
science side of tumblr, please explain
Air on bottom go woosh. Air on top go woosh. Air on front go woosh. Little plane stay still.
Thanks science side of tumblr